Been looking for Mrs. or Mr. Right, we all have a fantasy ideal in mind: tall, dark and handsome, a movie star body with a Pulitzer Prize winner’s brain or another variation that suits you perfectly.
There’s nothing wrong with these kinds of pedestals, either. Fantasizing about your dream mate will only help you to discover more of what you want and need in a relationship. But where do you draw the line between fantasy and reality? When do you know your relationship expectations aren’t realistic?
Your relationship expectations may be unreasonable if…
- You have specific requirements regarding your potential mate’s height, weight, and/or appearance that aren’t negotiable under any circumstances;
- You refuse to date anyone unless they make a certain amount of money;
- You won’t date someone who lives further than a quick drive away;
- Anyone without similar interests as you is out of the question; and/or
- You require a person to trust you and open up to you immediately.
YOUR RELATIONSHIP EXPECTATIONS ARE PROBABLY REASONABLE IF…
- A spark of some sorts is required, whether it’s mental, physical or emotional;
- You want someone who finds you amusing, adorable, and/or exciting;
- You are holding out for someone whose basic views on the world are similar, but not necessarily identical to yours; and/or
- Someone with the same willingness to be in a relationship and with similar long-term dating goals, whether that’s for casual dating, cohabitation or a committed marriage.