Have you asked yourself what makes some men have so happy love relationships?
How did they and their woman solve the relationship puzzle to keep the spark of love alive after years together?
What are they doing that unhappy couples aren’t?
Believe it or not, happy love relationships don’t simply happen. They are envisioned, planned and continually nourished.
We have a different emotional blueprint than the women we love, so we need specific tips for maintaining happy love relationships with our partners. General tips, like spending quality time together, creating excitement and surprises or supporting and comforting each other are, obviously, for both genders. But what specific tips can you – as a man – use to make sure your partner feels the depth of your love?
Here are a few practical ones:
Happy Love Relationships – Tip #1
Practice emotional love – daily if you can: take her in “your world” and share your wants, hopes, and concerns with your partner – this will remind her that you trust her and will make her feel closer to you.
Win her heart by going in “her world” too: take time to see life from her perspective, validate her feelings and tell her you understand how and why she feels the way she does – she will feel understood, cared for, and loved.
Happy Love Relationships – Tip #2
Chivalry is not dead and uncommon courtesy goes a long way with your lady. Treat her like a woman even if you are buddies.
Because you raise above the rabble and practice the good manners of a true gentleman, she will feel respected, cherished and will reciprocate with respect and admiration.
This is what will make you happy too.
For example, walk on the outside of the sidewalk to protect her from the street’s traffic; hold open all doors for her and go around to open the car door waiting there until she is seated.
Help your partner put on her coat (even if it’s only a jacket), ask her if she needs anything, maintain eye contact as much as possible, and offer to unhook her necklace.
The difference between a gentleman and a boor is class. Show you have it.
Avoid pointing out her shortcomings, speaking loudly, shouting or interrupting her (unless there’s an emergency or other valid reason). Such rude behaviors raise her stress levels making her uncomfortable and less able to follow your logic.
Swearing or spitting? BIG no-no’s – or she’ll think you are a jerk.
Happy Love Relationships – Tip #3
When you fight (you will), fight with her weapons or else you’ll both lose. Understand that logic alone will not take you too far… When distressed, women lose the ability to reason effectively, they feel rather than think.
Wanting to be accurate or trying to prove you are right (even when you are) while the spirits are high, will only make her feel you are on the opposite side and she’ll continue to ‘attack’ you.
Instead, acknowledge her feelings, see the situation through her eyes and validate her point of view. Never, ever use the word “but” to transition to your own viewpoint in the same sentence. Linguists found that subconsciously, the word “but” simply negates ALL that has been said previously.
Make her feel you are on her side whenever she is upset so she can relax enough to be able to have a logical discussion. And keep the kids out of it, of course!
Happy Love Relationships – Tip #4
Make the effort to not take your relationship for granted. Appreciate even the small things that she does for you: packing your lunch, brushing your coat, researching something for you on the net, or calling in to see how’s your day – go easily unnoticed after being together for a while.
Say “Thank You” with a card or even with a sticky note left casually on her pillow, dashboard, bathroom mirror, or her keyboard. You’ll make her day!
Not only will she feel seen and that what she does counts for you, she’ll be motivated to keep those good things (and others) coming.
Happy Love Relationships – Tip #5
We all need to get and give hugs to stay healthy and happy.
Non-sexual touching and cuddling go a long way with your lady. Playing with her hair, holding her hand, a soft kiss on the cheek, caressing her legs in the car while waiting in traffic, a 20-second hug or a gentle back rub make a HUGE difference in how your partner feels around you.
What’s the secret?
Well, non-sexual touching releases, the hormone of bonding and of affectionate love, which makes women (more than men) to feel more safe, cared for and protected.
Non-sexual touching relaxes women a lot, reducing their level of stress, fear, and mental fatigue.
By contrast, the lack of constant non-sexual touching causes anxiety, resentment, and diminished intimacy; don’t let your relationship wither over something as simple as that!
Happy Love Relationships – Tip #6
Care for your Self: even if it’s only a half hour per day, enjoy time alone regularly to restore your essence, and enhance your masculine presence.
Your relationships are always having the same quality as your soul connections, they are the mirror of your soul. If your relationships lack depth and intensity, ask yourself why.
When you focus on your essence you are less likely to wallow, forget who you are and lose your SELF at the expense of a big paycheck, sophisticated toys, designer clothes, or a swanky car.
Yes, these things might be enticing, but are only shine – not the real thing.
Love lives inside of YOU! Nothing outside yourself can fill the empty space in your heart or make her love you more (unless she is not actually looking for love).
It is only YOU who can fill the empty spaces in your heart. Forgive yourself. Accept yourself. Comfort yourself. Be what you are seeking to find. Be whole on your own, and then share this wholeness with your partner.
Take the time to understand women in relationship and keep your relationship in top shape. You certainly work at your career and at your hobbies, true? Well, you should know that happy love relationships take effort too.