How to Start a Conversation with a Stranger to Get or Keep a Date

You’ll probably run into many people throughout the course of your dating preparations that could be The One, but you’ll never know for sure unless you talk to them. Starting a conversation with a stranger can be daunting, but it doesn’t have to be impossible.
Every conversation runs its course within a similar outline: making first contact, introductions, speaking with each other, and then ending the conversation – hopefully with plans to meet again.

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Ice Breakers as Conversation Starters

The purpose of breaking the ice with someone new isn’t to show off your amazing conversational skills. Instead, think of your initial contact as a way to show a potential date that you’d like to talk to them. Some conversation starter ideas to get the words flowing:

· Comment on an item that you both share in your immediate surroundings, such as the long lineup you’re both waiting in or the wobbly chair next to you. By focusing an item you can both experience, you’re removing any potential awkwardness with a canned comment.

· Sometimes a look is all that’s needed to break the ice. When faced with a person you find attractive, why not give them a genuine, 3 second smile? You may be surprised when the object of your happiness starts a conversation with you, instead.

· If there is something the person is or has that truly intrigues you, simply use that as a conversation starter. This could be as simple as admiring a piece of clothing or asking them about the item they ordered.

· A genuine hello coupled with a smile can be equally as effective.

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He Needs to Solve His Problems Alone

Most men are conquerors and most women are venters. We just solve problems differently. For example, you tell your guy about your horrible experience at work. You want him to comfort and console you; instead he gives you logical facts about how to solve the problem. You feel cheated. You want to share your feelings about the day and all he wanted to do was fix the problem.

Men like to offer solutions. Most men are not concerned about being in touch with their feelings when there’s a conflict. You want to feel understood; he wants to make the problem go away. He can’t relate to how you are feeling, so he does what he knows best, helps you to plan a solution.

Over 40

The phrase Life begins at 40 was coined by American psychologist Walter Pitkin in his 1932 book where he confidently stated ‘Life begins at forty. This is the revolutionary outcome of our New Era. Today it is a half truth. Tomorrow it will be an axiom’. It goes without saying; he was definitely onto something not only in the terms of how we generally now view or lifecycles, but also how our dating habits have and are still changing.

Dating over 40 is not only considered a norm in society but is also arguably the best time to date! Most of us have played the dating game and this should not be taken as a disadvantage but the very opposite – We know what we want and we won’t settle for anything less. Saying this our potential dating partners are in exactly the same boat and therefore there is already a line of trust, openness and honesty that suggests we won’t be wasting time in the wrong relationships. We have that advantage – so why not use it!

Conversation Topics

You’ve made first contact – now what? Conversation starters that seem witty or interesting can be a challenge in the spur of the moment. That’s why spending a little bit of time at home pondering the ‘now what’ will pay, later. You don’t need to invest hours into these conversation starters though. Some quick ideas that can work in a pinch:

· Current event topics of interest to you;

· The last movie you watched;

· A comment about the event you’re attending, with a follow-up question asking how they heard about it.

The point of this exercise is to create a backup of topics that you can draw upon on a moment’s notice to start a conversation that would also be of interest to someone else.