Brainstorming Your Relationship Expectations? by Elisabeth Dabbelt

Brainstorming Your Relationship Expectations

Take a moment and brainstorm on paper for a little bit; ten or fifteen minutes should do the trick nicely. Close your eyes and picture your ideal mate: what talents, qualities, personality traits, experiences and emotional capabilities do you want him or her to have? Don’t censor yourself, and let your mind wander to wherever it goes. If you’re having a hard time coming up with some ideas, think about your past relationships and use their positive aspects as your starting guide.

Next, write the number one next to all of the items you wrote that you feel are essential to your happiness, and a two next to the items that would be nice, but not necessary.

Ranking Your Relationship Expectations

Take all of the items marked with the number one, and list them in your own order of importance on a seperate sheet of paper. If this is hard (and for most people it is!) write each item on a small separate sticky note. Then, place each item in order of most important to least important on a wall or other large surface, and move the sticky notes around until you feel you’ve found the right combination.

Look at your top five items. These are the expectations you have for a quality relationship that you should never compromise on. Therefore, if you meet someone who you are extremely attracted to, but doesn’t have all five of the items you’ve listed on your must-have list – it’s time to move on.

Evolution is Necessary When it Comes to Relationship Expectations

Finally, realize that your relationship expectations will change and evolve over time. Don’t be scared to review your list and go through this exercise after every breakup as part of your preparations to date again or anytime you feel your relationship needs have changed. or anytime you feel your relationship needs have changed. Love is out there and here are some tips for finding love, romance, happiness and possibly marriage. 

Healthy Relationships

Secrets act as blocks to intimacy and very often, they do get out, thus undermining trust in the relationship. If you have an issue from your past , the best is for you to put it out there and deal with it in the context of your relationship rather than go for crisis control after.

Secrets are very personal, charged with emotions and feelings, usually not easy to share or it would be no secret. So the secret keeper will deliver the message with the negative charge that comes along with secrecy. Therefore, the listener may not “hear” the secret exactly.

By loving each other, respect, consideration, empathy, support, intimacy, all comes with the territory. The person feels comfortable talking about memories, emotions, feelings, trusting the relationship. Hence, things will come up naturally.

Should couples Share All or have some secrets

Secrets act as blocks to intimacy and very often, they do get out, thus undermining trust in the relationship. If you have an issue from your past , the best is for you to put it out there and deal with it in the context of your relationship rather than go for crisis control after.

Secrets are very personal, charged with emotions and feelings, usually not easy to share or it would be no secret. So the secret keeper will deliver the message with the negative charge that comes along with secrecy. Therefore, the listener may not “hear” the secret exactly.

By loving each other, respect, consideration, empathy, support, intimacy, all comes with the territory. The person feels comfortable talking about memories, emotions, feelings, trusting the relationship. Hence, things will come up naturally.