Take A Different Approach

If you’ve felt like you’ve been in a long “dry spell” in your love life, getting no attention or having no success with men and you can’t figure out why – perhaps it’s simply time to consider changing your life with a new approach.

Imagine if you will the following: You’re single and loving it. You have a full life complete with good friends, a not-all-bad job, and your own place.

You haven’t had a boyfriend in a while but you’re not too worried. There’s plenty of time to figure that stuff out, and besides – although you know many women who are married and have been in a few weddings already, most of your closest friends haven’t found “the one” either.

One night your phone rings. It’s your best friend. “I have HUGE news!” she says. “I’m getting
married!”

You’re stunned. You didn’t even know she was seriously dating anyone.

Do You Have a Good Relationship Compatibility with Your Partner?

Believe it or not, your relationship compatibility determines whether your relationship will be a lifetime of love and happiness or a complete disaster.

Did you know that incompatibility between intimate partners contributes to 78% of break-ups and is at the core of most common relationship problems? It’s true!

Learn here about relationship compatibility and how to know who you’re compatible with.

First, you should know that romantic and marriage compatibility make life together much simpler.

Sure, opposites attract, but a stable relationship is based on similarity.

What Women Need to Know About Men

He heard what you said. He’s just not interested in hearing it at the moment. Don’t try to give your man instructions or talk about your feelings when he’s watching TV (especially sports), eating, reading, or has just come home from work. He will only be half listening. His mind is on other things like: will his team win, his day at work, how hungry he is, etc. He can only pay attention to one thing at a time. If he lets you think that he is giving you his full attention, and then you will want to talk to him at these inappropriate moments all the time. If he gives you a detailed response, you’ll just continue to talk. If he completely ignores you, you’ll get mad. If he pretends that he is listening, you will be content and walk away.

He Does Look at Other Women

Not because he wants to cheat, but because men are visually stimulated. Getting mad at him for looking is just going to make him sneak a peek. Hey, it’s just a passing glance. It’s not like we don’t check guys out too!

He Needs Time Away From You

Men need time to reflect, socialize and just get away from it all. Men like the time to regroup. It doesn’t mean that they don’t want to be with us, it is just an escape to appreciate what they have at home. So lighten up, while he’s out of the house. Take that time for yourself, go out with your girlfriends, or do something you enjoy.

He Just Doesn’t Feel Like Being Bothered Sometimes

You’ve probably asked him to do something several times, but yet he still doesn’t do it in a timely manner. In frustration, you do it yourself. What is he thinking, “Thank Goodness!” Men do things at their own pace. Unlike women, men are not good at multi-tasking. You can ask your man to take out the trash and 3 hours later, it’s still there. Technically, he still has time to take out the trash. In his mind, the trash isn’t going anywhere anytime soon, and if you do it yourself, that just makes it better for him.

He Needs to Solve His Problems Alone

Most men are conquerors and most women are venters. We just solve problems differently. For example, you tell your guy about your horrible experience at work. You want him to comfort and console you; instead he gives you logical facts about how to solve the problem. You feel cheated. You want to share your feelings about the day and all he wanted to do was fix the problem.

Men like to offer solutions. Most men are not concerned about being in touch with their feelings when there’s a conflict. You want to feel understood; he wants to make the problem go away. He can’t relate to how you are feeling, so he does what he knows best, helps you to plan a solution.

Over 40

The phrase Life begins at 40 was coined by American psychologist Walter Pitkin in his 1932 book where he confidently stated ‘Life begins at forty. This is the revolutionary outcome of our New Era. Today it is a half truth. Tomorrow it will be an axiom’. It goes without saying; he was definitely onto something not only in the terms of how we generally now view or lifecycles, but also how our dating habits have and are still changing.

Dating over 40 is not only considered a norm in society but is also arguably the best time to date! Most of us have played the dating game and this should not be taken as a disadvantage but the very opposite – We know what we want and we won’t settle for anything less. Saying this our potential dating partners are in exactly the same boat and therefore there is already a line of trust, openness and honesty that suggests we won’t be wasting time in the wrong relationships. We have that advantage – so why not use it!