GREAT DATE DEFINED

by A.D. Summerlin

When dating, it is important to not just figure out what a dating nightmare looks like, but also recognize a great date. Here are some characteristics of the latter:

A great date is at a location that you both find neutral and pleasurable. The atmosphere and food are fresh and satisfying. The service is efficient and the server is not hovering constantly.
A great date is aware that you took the time and trouble to prepare for the date. He/she is considerate of your needs. If you drove for two or three hours to get to the location, he/she makes note of this and thanks you.
A great date is polite to you and to anyone he/she encounters while on the date including servers at restaurants and parking valets.
A great date is someone who holds the conversation and when the conversation moves to a subject you do not want to discuss and you deliberately change the subject, he/she respects your choice.
A great date asks you questions about yourself and answers your questions. The qualifier is that both of you are comfortable with the questions and if uncomfortable, may change the subject without reprisal.
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A great date is complementary of your dress and looks, and is not gawking at everyone else in the room as if waiting for someone “better” to come along.
A great date does not check his/her cell phone. Unless he/she is a doctor, is on call with his/her job, or is on alert with a family emergency, and those are rare. For more ways to find the right one, contact Elite Introductions and Matchmaking serving Central Floridahttps://orlandosingleprofessional.com/.
A great date understands spontaneity and humor. Laughter hugely important for a great date. If you and your date have witty banter that is equal and your date is not competing for who is funniest, the date is a great one.
A great date comes to you with the best of intentions, and is considerate regarding who pays. Generally, for the first date, the man or senior person pays. The person who suggested is also a person who pays, and there should be no tense moments regarding this. If a date is fumbling with the credit card or cash, trying to compel you to pay when you are the one who was asked out on the date, it is not a great date.
A great date enjoys the moment, enjoys you, and enjoys experiencing the moment with you. Whether it is laughing over a centenarian birthday party at the next table in which the ancient man is surrounded by a bevy of lovely young woman, or a woman’s bachelorette party in the bar, a great date understands that all these moments make memories and enjoys them.
A great date ends with a hug or an affectionate kiss, not a tonsil examination. The kiss is memorable and sweet, ends with eye contact, and there is absolutely no pressure for sex.
A great date is followed by a phone call or note the next day or in the days to follow.For more info contact Elisabeth Dabbelt Elite Introductions and Matchmaking serving Central Floridahttps://orlandosingleprofessional.com/.

A First Date can Last a Lifetime!!

Every first date is a crucial step along the path to a relationship. Still, they can be awkward, frustrating, confusing and heartbreaking, depending on how each person goes about the date. Learn how to have a perfect first date that includes few mishaps and a lot of laughs, fun and memories to last forever.

No matter how well you think you’ll get along, a first date can change everything. Why be stuck on an all-day wine tour with someone if you aren’t feeling the sparks? Try keeping your first date to no more than one or two hours. Then, if things are going really well, you can always extend the date longer, later.

What is a successful first date? It varies depending on the situation and the people involved, maybe you felt like two minutes had passed when it was more like two hours. Success could also be measured in whether or not a second date will take will take place.

Dating Advice for Women

Q: We had a great first date two weeks ago, but I haven’t heard from him since about a second date. When will he call?

A: It is always difficult to wonder after a first date if the other person enjoyed themselves as much as you did. You laughed, shared some time together and maybe even some affection or sparkly spark. But what next?

There are a couple of reasons why your amazing first date may not have called after two weeks: he wasn’t interested and didn’t feel comfortable saying so, he was already dating someone else and chose to pursue things with them, he got really busy at work and lost track of time, or he didn’t think you enjoyed yourself or weren’t interested.

Of the four options, two work in your favor and two don’t. The only way you’ll know which applies to you is if you contact him. Send him a quick note or make a phone call (however the two of you arranged the first date is an appropriate way of making contact again), and let him know you had a great time with him the other day. Apologize for not getting back to him sooner saying you’ve been really busy, and your weekend is shaping up to be interesting too with your plans for some event that turns your fancy. Then, leave it up to the gent to reply.

Dating Rules for Women

The Do’s and Don’ts of dating for the modern female

Guys: If you don’t like this, look away now.

In another dating article you will find a general set of rules than men should follow when dating. In the same way, women have some general rules that they should contend with when entering the dating jungle. Now I know everyone is different, so don’t take things too seriously here. There has been some controversy over some literature published in the USA that lays out in detail the rules a woman should follow to get her guy. Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider’s 1995 bestseller “The Rules,” explains how women should play hard if they want to get their guy. The fact is that when we grow up, there are a predefined set of dating rules. What happens is that we forget most of them after the age of 21, and then realize we need to relearn them.

I wish there weren’t any general rules, but courtship is a ritual. There are things that we make happen that excite, stimulate, create interest and confound. Dating is a long test of compatibility. Are we perfectly matched? If we just threw ourselves together, then the chances of long term happiness might be compromised. And yet previous generations managed to succeed on a far less complex courtship criteria list. Many arranged marriages work all too interestingly.

In every society there are a predefined set of social rules we follow, from the way and timing of eating to the way we behave in public. The issue here is that when women date, there are some things that can help them be more successful. If we accept that dating is a game, then there are rules to that game. There are winners and losers. If you know the rules in advance, it gives you a head start. If men know the rules by which you are playing, you may change the rules to suit the situation to keep the man guessing. Men love a challenge, so feel free to adapt rules and add them as you feel inclined.

General Dating Rules

Always look great, whatever your income. Gorgeous hair and some lipstick with rags will still turn his head. You have the advantage. You are the woman. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere at any time.
Never reveal information you don’t have to. An enigmatic woman drives men wild.
Keep dates brief, but your men interested. Less is always more.
Try and stay in shape and involve some fitness regime at a gym. However much you hate it, your Mr. Right loves your body as much as your mind.
Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.
Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.
Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady’s prerogative.
Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.
If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.
Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.
Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.
Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practice on a mirror if you have to.
Never ever talk about previous boyfriends, particularly their prowess in the bedroom. Your ex-boyfriends are your business only.
Never assume anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking.
If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity, run like the wind. Life is too short for boys.
If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him.
Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison.
Never ever come across as too available or too desperate. He will run a mile. He is the one doing the chasing.
If the guy in the corner is gorgeous, go get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else.
You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.
If you want a child, don’t mention it on the first few dates.
Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.

Elisabeth

Six Tips For Happy Love Relationships

Have you asked yourself what makes some men have so happy love relationships?

How did they and their woman solve the relationship puzzle to keep the spark of love alive after years together?

What are they doing that unhappy couples aren’t?

Believe it or not, happy love relationships don’t simply happen. They are envisioned, planned and continually nourished.

We have a different emotional blueprint than the women we love, so we need specific tips for maintaining happy love relationships with our partners. General tips, like spending quality time together, creating excitement and surprises or supporting and comforting each other are, obviously, for both genders. But what specific tips can you – as a man – use to make sure your partner feels the depth of your love?

Here are a few practical ones:

Happy Love Relationships – Tip #1

Practice emotional love – daily if you can: take her in “your world” and share your wants, hopes, and concerns with your partner – this will remind her that you trust her and will make her feel closer to you.

Win her heart by going in “her world” too: take time to see life from her perspective, validate her feelings and tell her you understand how and why she feels the way she does – she will feel understood, cared for, and loved.

Happy Love Relationships – Tip #2

Chivalry is not dead and uncommon courtesy goes a long way with your lady. Treat her like a woman even if you are buddies.

Why?

Because you raise above the rabble and practice the good manners of a true gentleman, she will feel respected, cherished and will reciprocate with respect and admiration.

This is what will make you happy too.

For example, walk on the outside of the sidewalk to protect her from the street’s traffic; hold open all doors for her and go around to open the car door waiting there until she is seated.

Help your partner put on her coat (even if it’s only a jacket), ask her if she needs anything, maintain eye contact as much as possible, and offer to unhook her necklace.

The difference between a gentleman and a boor is class. Show you have it.

Avoid pointing out her shortcomings, speaking loudly, shouting or interrupting her (unless there’s an emergency or other valid reason). Such rude behaviors raise her stress levels making her uncomfortable and less able to follow your logic.

Swearing or spitting? BIG no-no’s – or she’ll think you are a jerk.

Happy Love Relationships – Tip #3

When you fight (you will), fight with her weapons or else you’ll both lose. Understand that logic alone will not take you too far… When distressed, women lose the ability to reason effectively, they feel rather than think.

Wanting to be accurate or trying to prove you are right (even when you are) while the spirits are high, will only make her feel you are on the opposite side and she’ll continue to ‘attack’ you.

Instead, acknowledge her feelings, see the situation through her eyes and validate her point of view. Never, ever use the word “but” to transition to your own viewpoint in the same sentence. Linguists found that subconsciously, the word “but” simply negates ALL that has been said previously.

Make her feel you are on her side whenever she is upset so she can relax enough to be able to have a logical discussion. And keep the kids out of it, of course!

Happy Love Relationships – Tip #4

Make the effort to not take your relationship for granted. Appreciate even the small things that she does for you: packing your lunch, brushing your coat, researching something for you on the net, or calling in to see how’s your day – go easily unnoticed after being together for a while.

Say “Thank You” with a card or even with a sticky note left casually on her pillow, dashboard, bathroom mirror, or her keyboard. You’ll make her day!

Not only will she feel seen and that what she does counts for you, she’ll be motivated to keep those good things (and others) coming.

Happy Love Relationships – Tip #5

We all need to get and give hugs to stay healthy and happy.

Non-sexual touching and cuddling go a long way with your lady. Playing with her hair, holding her hand, a soft kiss on the cheek, caressing her legs in the car while waiting in traffic, a 20-second hug or a gentle back rub make a HUGE difference in how your partner feels around you.

What’s the secret?

Well, non-sexual touching releases, the hormone of bonding and of affectionate love, which makes women (more than men) to feel more safe, cared for and protected.

Non-sexual touching relaxes women a lot, reducing their level of stress, fear, and mental fatigue.

By contrast, the lack of constant non-sexual touching causes anxiety, resentment, and diminished intimacy; don’t let your relationship wither over something as simple as that!

Happy Love Relationships – Tip #6

Care for your Self: even if it’s only a half hour per day, enjoy time alone regularly to restore your essence, and enhance your masculine presence.

Consider this.

Your relationships are always having the same quality as your soul connections, they are the mirror of your soul. If your relationships lack depth and intensity, ask yourself why.

When you focus on your essence you are less likely to wallow, forget who you are and lose your SELF at the expense of a big paycheck, sophisticated toys, designer clothes, or a swanky car.

Yes, these things might be enticing, but are only shine – not the real thing.

Love lives inside of YOU! Nothing outside yourself can fill the empty space in your heart or make her love you more (unless she is not actually looking for love).

It is only YOU who can fill the empty spaces in your heart. Forgive yourself. Accept yourself. Comfort yourself. Be what you are seeking to find. Be whole on your own, and then share this wholeness with your partner.

Bottom line?

Take the time to understand women in relationship and keep your relationship in top shape. You certainly work at your career and at your hobbies, true? Well, you should know that happy love relationships take effort too.

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